18 and 24 year old dating
A history, a habit, a comfort zone, or majorly security they are seeking in their older partners. And therefore you both are on different pedestals right now. " After she said that and we hung up the phone she texted me numerous times to say how sorry she was and that she never meant for it to be like this. I've broken up with women before and never said those things.
It seems like she is sending conflicting messages hence why she keeps saying she is confused. I am looking for closure and just wondering if I contact and ask questions will she be truthful. She cares for you, she thinks you might be hurt, you stick to her original statement, that she is confused...
She wants to feel free to pursue her career and she recognizes that you are ready to settle down.
If she didn't recognize this in you, she wouldn't have suggested that you need to find someone who is ready to marry you.
Tell her that, if she should decide she wants to marry you she should contact you.
This is not uncommon when a 24-year-old girl dates a guy who is 44.
She is conflicted, and ofcourse she needs to resolve those conflicts, Give her space, no body is running ya?
To add more, you shouldn't have an idea of dropping her instantly and finding a complete closure, i think you fear rejection or your experiences in previous situations are kicking a self defense mechanism in you, Are you afraid of something, if you are looking for complete closure, then don't read her mixed messages...
Also am I being stupid dating a 24 year old when I'm 44? Different goals, aspirations, ambitions when you are in 20z, and when you are in 40z, Some girls don't like to be tied in marriage, they are overall good buddies. I have always been comfortable with people who are older to me. Don't worry about if she is telling a truth, treat her like your friend, a junior buddy, a cute gf, a growing individual.... She is entitled to make a choice whenever she is prepared, staying her friends would always reassure her without speaking! I am looking for closure and just wondering if I contact and ask questions will she be truthful.
Also some girls or even boys who date with aged people, they usually have a background for why they incline to somebody older. But for my second marriage, i would reconsider age gaps... many of the marriages with huge age gaps have failed in the area where i live.. I'm just confused as to why she said, "she is confused and likes me so much? She has already given you closure, and she was honest with you. You are on two completely different paths and if you truly love her, you will understand that she is not where you are in life and loves you as a friend or an amazing experience thus she is not the "ONE" Why would she say she is confused and cares so much about me?