7 secrets to a healthy dating relationship
We've been dating for 7 months, and we have plans like getting our apartment together, saving for that, we argue sometimes but we get through it and we're fine. We can never agree on when to do it, were never on the same page which makes me resentful and i feel like there is something wrong with me.
Plus we are meant to be so that makes it alot better and more secure and important. Everytime i bring it up, im being childish and it makes him not want to have sex with me. We are unable to accept our partner the way she or he is because there are two different egos, mindsets, and beliefs at work.
Agreement on Parenting There are bascially three main styles of parenting:a) Authoritarian: The rules are the rules are the rules.
No exceptions.b) Authoritative: This is what I refer to as a "Benevolent Dictatorship".
This is the reason for the rise of conflicts in marriage.
If you are the one in charge of the bill paying, you pay the bills on time. If you can't pay the bills on time, turn over that job to your partner or hire someone to do it for you. Couples of different religions (or non-religion) and cultural backgrounds can have healthy relationships - what makes a healthy relationship is sharing core beliefs.
I'll do another post on how to have a healthy argument.3.
Agreement on Sex You're both okay with how often you have sex, how you have sex, where you have sex..there's mutual participation. And if you or your partner are not comfortable with an aspect of your sex life, you can talk about it openly, without criticism. I don't care how busy or tired the two of you are - there is time for sex.4.
Abuse, whether it is physical, verbal, or emotional, defies mutual respect in every way, shape and form.
You have to have mutual respect to have a healthy relationship. Arguing, Not Fighting I've never seen a healthy couple that doesn't argue. If a couple comes into my office and tells me they've never argued, something isn't quite right. Arguing is non-combative - you and your partner state your points of view without name-calling or raising your voice. Figure out what your "non-negotiables" are - the things that you will not budge on. I like the saying "You can either be right, or married." Hopefully you and your partner's values (see #6 below) match up pretty well - that makes things much easier!