Gay dating advice mature men
No matter your gender or sexual orientation, dating can seem like a minefield.Sometimes we meet the wrong people, choose a bad venue or fall head over heels with someone who just wants to be friends.While the common dating ‘rules’ – not that I believe in rules – can apply to anybody, there are perhaps a few things we, as gay guys, need to pay a little more attention to. We whinge that we can’t find the right man, or never get a second date, but the usual reason is we’re not looking hard enough in the first place.Whether we’re into bears, jocks or geeks, sometimes our narrow search criteria holds us back.Whether we’re reluctant to perpetuate the stereotype that gay men are promiscuous, or tell ourselves boys who give it up on the first date are less desirable, we certainly think too much about this one.The idea that men who put out aren’t good enough to take home to meet our mother is nonsense. Sex alone won’t ruin everything, believe me, plenty of other things can go wrong.Many guys are very clear in their dating profiles – almost rudely so – about what they don’t want or like.
We place a lot of importance, misguidedly I feel, on not having sex on the first date.Rejection can be a useful experience because it teaches you a bit about yourself and the guys you’re dating.Rejecting someone because of their appearance is only natural, but they don’t need to know that’s your reason.If you like someone enough, open your mind to other possibilities.Don’t rule someone out just because you’re both bottoms, for example; nothing is set in stone.